Think you’re cruise-ready? Not so fast. Even seasoned cruisers break these “innocent” rules without realizing it — and some have been banned for life because of it. Worse? These mistakes can instantly make other cruisers quietly loathe you.
Cruising comes with a whole set of unwritten social rules — break the wrong one, and you won’t just get side-eyes at dinner… you could find yourself kicked off the ship entirely.
I’ve rounded up the most surprising etiquette mistakes that get real passengers booted, judged, or blacklisted — and yes, some of them seem totally innocent… until they ruin your cruise.
Cruise Etiquette Tips to Avoid Being the Most Hated Passenger
Cruising comes with its own set of unspoken rules—and ignoring them can turn your dream vacation into an awkward ride. Whether it’s cutting in line or treating crew like personal staff, small slip-ups can leave a big impression (and not the good kind).
Rule #1: You’re not the only one on vacation
Good manners might seem basic—but at sea, they make all the difference. You’re sharing your vacation with thousands of other people, so a simple “please,” “thank you,” or friendly smile goes further than you think.
Let someone exit the elevator before you jump in. Give up your seat if someone needs it more. These little moments of courtesy don’t just make you a better cruiser—they make the whole ship feel more relaxed.
Give people space or get the side-eye
Ever felt someone a little too close in line? Cruise ships can get crowded, but there’s still such a thing as personal space. Whether it’s the buffet, the elevator, or the gangway, keeping just a little distance can spare everyone the awkward tension (and the accidental elbow bump). No one wants to feel like they’re being breathed on by a stranger.
Cutting in line? Expect dirty looks and eye rolls
Cutting in line is bad manners and a surefire way to annoy fellow cruise passengers. Whether waiting at the buffet, getting tickets for a show, or boarding the excursion bus, everyone is in the same boat—metaphorically and literally. The food isn’t going anywhere, so it’s best to wait your turn like everyone else.
Why not be the ideal passenger, enjoy the ambiance, or engage in light conversation while waiting?
Stop complaining—you’re on a cruise, not at work
Sure, not everything goes perfectly on a cruise—but constant complaining kills the vibe. Whether it’s a slow buffet line, crowded pool, or overpriced drinks, seasoned cruisers know to take a breath and roll with it. You’re on vacation. Grumbling over every little thing won’t fix the problem—it’ll just drag everyone down with you.
Show patience in busy areas and waiting times
The buffet line’s long. The elevator’s slow. The tender boat’s delayed. Welcome to cruising. The key? Don’t sweat it. These are just part of the ride—and the more relaxed you are, the better the vibe is for everyone around you.
Avoid these cruise chat no-nos
Some topics are better left at the pier—especially with strangers. Politics and religion might seem harmless at first, but on a cruise, they can turn a friendly chat into a tense standoff fast. Add a few drinks to the mix, and you’ve got a recipe for instant awkwardness (or worse).
Other inappropriate topics to avoid discussing with other passengers include asking about the cruise price, bragging about loyalty status, or asking embarrassing or intrusive questions.
Hitting on crew members? That’s a fast track to trouble
Cruise ship crew cannot fraternize with passengers—it’s in their contract. So, it’s a common sense cruise rule not to try to hit on them. Keep your relationship with the crew respectful and professional. That way, you avoid awkward moments and don’t risk getting booted off the ship for unwanted sexual advances, or even getting lifetime ban.
Don’t Be the Passenger Everyone Talks About Behind Your Back
Cruises are all about fun, relaxation, and enjoying a ton of complimentary amenities. Sure, there’s free food at the buffet, plenty of perks, and many free onboard activities. But there are cruising rules to follow. One of them is not to steal robes, towels, bed linen, tableware, or glasses. At the end of the day, the best souvenirs are the memories you make on the ship.
Here’s the good news: plenty of items in your cabin are perfectly fine to slip into your bag without asking. Read about them here.
Buffet Blunders and Dining Rules You Don’t Want to Break
The cruise buffet might be unlimited—but patience and hygiene are not. From towering food piles to sticky tongs, this is where etiquette is either on display—or totally forgotten.
Wasting food? That’s a fast way to lose respect
There’s an unspoken principle in buffets: only take what you’ll eat. So, don’t return to your table trying to balance the “leaning tower of Pisa.” You might think it’s fun, but it’s wasteful and inconsiderate to fellow passengers. Remember, you can always return for seconds.
Take a new plate for seconds (or thirds)
Thinking of going back for seconds? Grab a clean plate—always. It’s not about saving dishes; it’s about keeping germs off the buffet. Reusing your plate might seem harmless, but it breaks one of the most basic cruise dining rules—and trust me, the staff will notice.
Don’t be the barehanded buffet bandit
Following buffet etiquette and using the provided utensils to take food from shared platters is crucial. Picking up food with your hands isn’t just bad manners—it’s unhygienic. So, stick to the serving tools available. And if any are missing, ask the buffet staff.
Still deciding? Step aside, save the line
Not sure what to take? If so, stepping aside and keeping the line moving is standard practice. When you decide what to eat, no one will criticize you when you choose and rejoin the line.
Don’t start eating yet—seriously
Snacking in the buffet line? Big no-no. It might be tempting to sneak a bite while you wait, but it’s considered bad form—and a bit gross. No one wants to see half-eaten food mid-queue, and grabbing food with your hands spreads germs faster than you think. Just wait until you’re back at the table to dig in.
Wash up or gross everyone out
Wash your hands before meals—and definitely after using the bathroom. It’s basic, yes, but often ignored. On a cruise ship, skipping this can lead to more than side-eyes—it can spread germs fast. And yes, people do notice if you walk out without washing.
Got a reservation? Be there or risk a mess
It’s an expected protocol to arrive promptly for dining reservations. This accepted norm keeps the dining room running smoothly and shows respect to staff. Did something unexpected happen? Call the restaurant or Guest Services to cancel or tell them you’re running late.
Dress the part—even if it’s just dinner
Cruise dress codes aren’t just suggestions—they’re your ticket to being let in. No one’s asking for tuxes and ballgowns, but if you show up in swimwear or slippers, don’t be surprised if you’re turned away before the bread rolls hit the table.
Don’t be the loud table everyone hears
Cruise dining isn’t just about the food—it’s about the atmosphere. Most guests are there to unwind, not compete with loud conversations or disruptive behavior. Laugh, chat, enjoy your meal—but keep the volume in check so everyone can savor the experience, not just the steak.
No seats left? It’s totally fine to share
Busy times at the main buffet can make finding a seat difficult. So, be prepared to share your dining space with fellow passengers. This can be a great way to meet new people and enhance the cruise experience.
Cabin Courtesy: What Every Neighbor Hopes You Know
Your cabin may be your private space—but it’s still part of a shared environment. Sound travels, and little things like slamming doors or loud balcony chatter can easily disrupt your neighbors’ peace. If you want a relaxing stay, it starts with being mindful of those around you.
Keep it down—your balcony isn’t a stage
Your balcony is for relaxing, not throwing a party. So, keeping music and chatter at reasonable levels avoids disturbing others. You won’t have to fear a knock at the door asking you to lower the noise.
Smoking on the balcony? That could get you kicked off
Smoking or vaping on a balcony is not only against cruise ship rules but can also lead to being kicked off the ship. Cruise lines enforce strict policies, limiting smoking to designated areas. Breaking these rules could result in fines, cleaning fees, or even immediate removal from the ship.
For more details on behaviors that could get you removed, check out things that can get you kicked off a cruise ship in an instant—it’s full of tips to ensure you avoid these costly mistakes.
Peeking around the divider? Just don’t
Curious what your neighbors are up to? Don’t be. Peeking around the balcony divider is a major breach of cruise etiquette. Whatever’s happening next door isn’t your business. Pour a drink, face the ocean, and enjoy your view.
Slamming doors = instant enemies
Doors slamming shut is a severe annoyance to fellow passengers. You can prevent the loud, jarring sound by not having a cabin door and balcony door open simultaneously. Also, don’t slam doors at night or during the day to avoid waking fellow passengers.
Don’t leave towels or clothes on the balcony
Leaving towels or clothing on the balcony could result in them sailing off into the sunset. All it takes is a gust of wind for them to fly overboard or end up on a lower deck. So, keep your gear inside when not on the balcony.
Know where to leave room service trays after use
Ask your cabin steward about the standard practice of where to leave room service trays. Cruise lines have varying policies—on some ships, it’s in the hallway, and on others, it’s in your stateroom. You don’t want someone tripping over a tray if it’s supposed to be inside.
Keep your cabin clutter-free and organized
Cabin stewards appreciate it when you keep your stateroom shipshape. A tidy cabin makes your cruise more enjoyable. It also makes it easier for staff to service your room because there’s nothing to clear from the bed or floors.
Be considerate of noise late at night or early in the morning
Everything feels louder when the ship is quiet. Late at night or early in the morning, even small noises can seem disruptive when most passengers are resting. Be mindful during these hours—your neighbors are likely trying to enjoy the same peaceful start or end to their day as you are.
Cruise Pool Rules You Won’t Find in the Brochure (But Really Matter)
The pool deck is where cruisers go to soak up the sun, grab a drink, and unwind—but it’s also where some of the worst habits tend to show up. From saving chairs for hours to turning the hot tub into your personal lounge, it’s easy to cross the line without realizing. Think you’re playing it cool? These unspoken deck rules might say otherwise.
Chair hogs beware—you’re being watched
No one likes deck chair hogs. Did you know there’s an unwritten rule not to leave belongings on deck chairs for more than 30 minutes? If you don’t plan on using the lounge chair, remove your stuff and let others enjoy the lido deck.
Your playlist isn’t everyone’s jam
Want to groove to the latest tunes on your Bluetooth speaker at the poolside? Remember to respect everyone’s “right to quiet enjoyment.” Not everyone wants to hear your playlist.
Hot tubs are not your private spa
Enjoy the hot tub, remembering it’s not your private spa. Tubs on cruise ships can be small and get crowded quickly. So, it’s fair to allow everyone to relax and unwind.
No splash zones: pools aren’t water parks
Splashing strangers or dive bombing the pool are unspoken pool no-nos on cruise ships. Like hot tubs, pools on cruise ships can be small, and it’s not everyone’s idea of fun to get splashed.
Leave the deck nicer than you found it
It’s common courtesy to clean up after yourself, especially on the pool deck. When you leave, take your towel, leftover snacks, and beverage containers with you.
Cruise Tech Etiquette Mistakes That Instantly Annoy Everyone
Phones, flash, and photos—tech mistakes on a cruise are more annoying than you think. These digital don’ts are the fastest way to earn side-eyes (or worse) from your fellow passengers.
Keep your calls private (we’re all eavesdropping)
You’re not the only one trying to relax, so keep phone calls low and quick. Just because there’s background noise doesn’t mean you need to shout over it. A little discretion goes a long way, especially on a cruise.
Snapping strangers? Major cruise no-no
It’s a serious breach of etiquette to take photos of other passengers without their consent. While it’s common to capture people in the background when taking public photos, avoid intentionally targeting anyone. Always respect others’ privacy when snapping pictures on board.
Flash off, please—don’t ruin the show
Do you want to capture moments from spectacular evening shows? It’s a common courtesy to performers and those around you to keep the flash off.
Hallway & Elevator Habits That Secretly Drive People Nuts
Hallways and elevators might not be glamorous, but they’re where cruise etiquette really shows. When things get busy, a little politeness can go a long way. These simple habits help everyone move through the ship with less stress (and way fewer awkward encounters).
Unless you really need the elevator, take the stairs and dodge the glares
A common courtesy to show fellow passengers is taking the stairs if possible. This avoids congesting crowded elevators at peak times, giving space to those needing them most. You’ll also work off some extra calories from the all-you-can-eat breakfast buffet.
Let them out before you rush in
It’s an unwritten rule to let people exit elevators before jumping on. Follow good elevator etiquette: push the button, step aside, and let everyone off.
If it’s packed, just wait
So, the elevator doors open, and the passengers look like sardines in a can. In that case, wait for the next one and avoid making a crowded situation even worse.
Stop kids from hitting every button (please!)
It’s good to teach kids proper elevator etiquette and not press all the buttons at once. Your fellow passengers will appreciate not stopping at every floor needlessly.
Stay right, pass left—just like driving
Did you know there’s an unwritten traffic-flow code in hallways and stairwells? Just like driving in the U.S., stick to the right-hand side, and you’ll avoid unnecessary bumping and congestion.
The Crew Makes the Magic—Here’s How to Treat Them Right
Cruise ship crew work tirelessly—often for little pay—to make the cruise experience memorable for you. Showing respect and appreciation is a basic courtesy that makes everyone’s day better. All it takes is a small thank you note, a smile, and a kind word. Here are a few ways to do this.
A “thank you” can make their whole day
Cabin attendants and bar staff are some of the crew’s hardest-working and underpaid members. So, a simple thank you, a token of appreciation, or a tip can make a huge difference in someone’s day.
Respect cabin stewards for their hard work
Keeping your quarters tidy and free from clutter is a simple way to respect cabin stewards. They work hard to take care of everyone and are not personal servants. Pay for a luxury cabin on your next cruise if you want someone to wait “hand and foot” on you.
Don’t ask the crew these awkward questions
It goes against standard etiquette to ask crew members awkward or embarrassing questions. So, there are two things never to ask: ages and wages.
Running Late? That’s a Big Deal on a Cruise
On land, being late is annoying. At sea, it’s a disaster. Whether it’s a show, a tour, or just getting back on the ship, lateness on a cruise comes with stares, delays—and sometimes, a missed boat.
Don’t be the one sneaking into the show late
It’s a common courtesy to arrive on time for dining reservations and shows. Entering the theater late is annoying for guests and can disrupt the show. Are you running late for a dinner reservation? Call ahead to warn staff.
The ship won’t wait—literally
Cruise ships wait for no one. If you’re late getting back to the terminal, you could be left standing on the dock as your ship sails off without you. Show up late to a shore excursion, and you might miss key attractions—or worse, face a bus full of annoyed stares. On a cruise, timing isn’t just polite—it’s critical.
Curfew for kids is a real rule—not just a suggestion
Most cruise ships have a written rule in the cruise contract that kids 17 and under must be in quarters by 1 a.m. So, ensuring your kids are not running amok in the wee hours and disrupting everyone’s sleep is good cruise etiquette.
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